WHO IS A GOOD MOTHER? DEDICATED TO THE MEMORY OF MY MOM

 

WHO IS A GOOD MOTHER?

DEDICATED TO THE MEMORY OF MY MOM

 

A GOOD MOTHER IS FORGIVING

Kids make mistakes. So do parents.

Good mothers forgive their kids. Really good moms forgive their kids while helping them learn a lesson.

But whether your kids do something to you or to someone else, forgiveness and lessons learned help them grow into good persons.

A GOOD MOTHER IS CALM

If forgiving children is one of the qualities of a good mother, then staying calm is also a requirement.

Motherhood is an emotional experience, and sometimes it’s hard to control your temper, even if you’ve never had a “temper problem” before.

When your patience is low, you’re tired, and you’re feeling stressed, it’s easy to lose your temper.

A GOOD MOTHER IS ORGANIZED

Organization isn’t just about keeping the toys and clutter minimized. Staying organized can also mean time management, something many moms struggle with.

If you struggle with organization, especially when it comes to handling your kids’ school papers, projects, activities, and everything else, start by writing everything down.

A GOOD MOTHER IS LOVING

You love your kids, but in the daily hustle, remembering to show unconditional love in little ways can be difficult.

When you’re throwing last night’s leftovers in a thermos for your son’s lunch or frantically trying to find your daughter’s shoes in the morning, love is probably the last thing you’re projecting.

Spending a couple extra seconds to hug your child as he runs out the door, making a “good day note” for his lunch box, or snuggling while reading an extra book at nap time is all it takes.

A GOOD MOTHER IS FRIENDLY

Your kids need you to be a good friend not only to them, but to their friends and their friends’ moms too. Parenting isn’t a solo act.

A good mother is her child’s best friend.

It is nice to have other moms to collaborate with and exchange notes.

A GOOD MOTHER IS FIERCE

Fierce? Yes fierce.

There’s a time and place to be fierce, but when it’s necessary, you need to know the best way to pull out the claws.

One time when being fierce is important is during times of medical emergencies or when she need to protect her child.

When kids have food allergies it is good to find a balance with being fierce. It’s ok to be fierce in order to protect her children.

There are times when she would not be fierce, like when she’s working with her child’s teacher to correct behavior issues.

If it’s not a life-threatening issue, advice from trusted family members, friends, and teachers should be welcome.

A GOOD MOTHER IS KNOWLEDGEABLE

For all her kids’ odd questions (how deep is the ocean? where do hippos live?), she has an answer.

Chances are, she won’t know everything that your kids will ask. A knowledgeable mom doesn’t know everything though. But a knowledgeable mom knows where to find answers to her kids’ questions

A knowledgeable mom also instills a hunger for learning in her kids. By having interesting conversations, asking questions, and listening to her kids, she can still be a knowledgeable mom, even if she doesn’t know everything.

Just by going the extra step of talking to her kids and taking an interest in their activities, she is able to show her love.

A GOOD MOTHER IS BRAVE

Being a mom requires a bravery that you probably didn’t know you had.

Making it through birth alone takes bravery.

But even after birth, a mother needs to be brave as she kisses her kids’ boo-boos. Brave as she sends them off to preschool, then kindergarten, and then college. Brave as she raises them to be the people she always knew they would be.

A GOOD MOTHER IS HEALTHY

One of the characteristics of a good mother is to be healthy. This can be achieved by following a healthy lifestyle, which includes exercise and diet.

Being a mom is hard and it can get even harder if she doesn’t take care of her health. A good mother is the role model for her kids and she sets a good example.

A good mother is not lazy. She makes time for exercise and makes sure that her family has a balanced diet.

It’s also important for moms to have a healthy lifestyle because it makes them more productive.

A GOOD MOTHER HAS A GOOD SENSE OF HUMOR

Watching a comedy show or movie, both with and without her kids (depending on the appropriateness of the movie)

Reading a joke book with them.

Sharing funny notes in kids’ lunches or putting them next to their beds or toothbrushes so they see them as soon as they wake up.

This way she keeps her children healthy and happy.

A GOOD MOTHER IS HARD WORKING

Showing kids hard work (and expecting hard work from them) is necessary to build her kids’ work ethic and prepare them for the future.

She teaches her kids how to have a sense of responsibility.

A GOOD MOTHER IS FUN

She meets her kids where they are. If they enjoy playing video games and board games, she spends quality time doing their favorite activities.

Spending family time together doing fun activities is a great way to build a good relationship with kids. She is able to talk to them more and find out what’s going on in her child’s life, which is especially important to do with older kids.

A GOOD MOTHER IS ALWAYS AVAILABLE

While older kids may be busy with school activities and spending time with their best friends, it’s still important to show them that they have a loving parent available whenever they need.

Being a good mom means being available when your kids need you.

This is not always easy to do, especially if you are juggling a career and taking care of your family. But if you want to be the best mom for your children, then it is important that you find the time for them.

Another great idea is to set up a code word for older children. If they need help or are in a compromising position and need to get picked up, give them a code phrase that they can text or call and you will be available to get them – no questions asked.

A GOOD MOTHER IS POSITIVE

Being a mom is a tough job. It’s not easy to be positive all the time, but it is something that she strives to do.

A good mom is not just the one who cooks, cleans and takes care of the kids. She is someone who can provide emotional support, listen attentively, and even make jokes with her kids.

Being a good mom also means being supportive of your children’s dreams and goals. It also means being open-minded to new ideas, different cultures, and lifestyles. It also means being a great listener.

A GOOD MOTHER IS NURTURING

A good mother is someone who is nurturing, caring, and takes care of her children, her family, and her friends. A good mom wants to make the world a better place for everyone in it.

A nurturing parent is also responsible for the child’s well-being and safety.

There are many ways in which a mother can be nurturing. For example, she can provide emotional support for her children and make them feel loved and accepted. She can also provide guidance to the children when they need it.

A GOOD MOTHER IS A GOOD ROLE MODEL

A great mother is a good role model for her children. But she can teach them simple things by example, like teaching them to make their bed in the morning, clean their room, and brush their teeth before bedtime.

Many parents are not perfect, but they still want to be good role models for their children. This can be difficult when she is struggling with her own issues.

When it comes down to it, the most important thing about being a good mother is showing kids how to deal with life’s challenges.

A GOOD MOTHER IS WELCOMING

A welcoming mother is always ready to help with whatever the child needs. She will not give up on them when they are struggling with something or when they are feeling down.

A welcoming mom will also take care of the child’s needs before her own and make sure that the child has everything they need in order to grow up into a healthy adult.

This characteristic is an important one because it helps to make sure that the children feel comfortable and at ease.

A good mother also creates a welcoming environment at home by creating a happy, comfortable home that both her own family and their friends enjoy visiting.

A GOOD MOTHER IS SECURE

She provides her children with a sense of security by establishing healthy boundaries.

Establishing healthy boundaries is important for both children and parents. A good mother establishes these boundaries in a way that is consistent with the child.

The most important thing to remember is that children are not just small adults. They have different needs, desires, and personalities. This means that they will have different boundaries than an adult would. A boundary could be limiting screen time or establishing what they are allowed to eat or drink.

A good mother sets these boundaries up so she can feel secure while still being able to explore her own individuality and interests.

It is important for parents and children to have mutual understanding about what the boundaries are. The boundaries should be reasonable and should not be too rigid or too loose. Having clear boundaries will help the child feel more secure as they will know what is expected from them and what they can expect from others.

A good mother is the Biblical Virtuous Woman in Proverbs 31:10-31.

I have only met one good mother who fits all the above.

That’s excepting the hard head knocks (iko) though.

My mother (Mrs C. S. Oladapo: August 26 ,1935 to November 21, 2008) was the best mother that ever lived.

Mother emeritus, Mama Teacher, Iya ewe, Iya Ijo.

This piece is dedicated to her memory.